Commitment is a wonderful thing.
Whether you’re talking about marriage, a job, a faith, parenthood, any cause–the willingness to commit openly and faithfully is admirable. Especially if it’s unpopular or out of the norm. I applaud those who continue to speak out against vaccines for their children with autism, those who rally against the war even if they’re called un-American, those who defend gay and lesbian rights.
But I also support those who commit to points I don’t believe in, like Carrie Prejean, the Miss California contestant who answered contest judge Perez Hilton’s question about whether same sex-marriage should be legal in all the states as follows:
“Well, I think it’s great that Americans are able to choose one or the other. We live in a land where you can choose same-sex marriage or opposite marriage. And you know what, in my country, in my family, I think that I believe that a marriage should be between a man and a woman. No offense to anyone out there, but that’s how I was raised, and that’s how I think it should be between a man and a woman.”
While I think she’s a little deluded that people in America “can choose” a marriage of either type, I think the storm of controversy that Hilton then generated over how horrible it was that she gave her true opinion is ridiculous. As CNN commentator Roland S. Martin says: “Hey, Hilton, from a real journalist to a wanna-be who traffics in gossip: Never ask a question if you’re unprepared for the answer!”
Fact is, America, not all of us hold the same opinion about things. We vary on everything but the weather–and most of the time, even that too. I happen to support same-sex rights, but I sure don’t expect that I can make everyone else do so. If you don’t want a same-sex marriage, don’t have one.
Just like abortion, sex change operation, Star Trek addiction, left wing/right wing, Conservative Christian, evangelical Baptist, Hare Krishna, and many other topics, what you yourself believe is your business, and you should be able to state your opinion without being attacked. You just shouldn’t be able to impose your belief on someone else and expect to force them to change.
I also appreciate the fact that she didn’t base this on her Christian beliefs and upbringing, only to have those racy photos show up the next week. (That would have been tacky.) She just said for HER, that’s what she believed. Good onya, Miss Prejean.
And thanks to Hilton, while Prejean won’t be Miss USA this go-round, she is now a spokesperson for the National Organization for Marriage and has appeared all over media circusland. I hope that she continues to speak her mind, as we all have the right to do. I just won’t be listening.